This is a hard post to write. I consider myself at least somewhat of an expert on adolescents, but I am hardly an expert on religion. However, for religious families, there can be important issues that arise after their teen comes out as gay, lesbian, or bisexual.
There are gay, lesbian, & bisexual- friendly organizations and places of worship for almost all major U.S. religions, including Christianity (Baptist, Catholic, Episcopal , Evangelical, Lutheran, Methodist, Presbyterian, and many others), Judaism, Islam, Buddhism, and Mormonism. If your faith is important to you, and your teen comes out as gay, lesbian, or bisexual, hopefully you are already worshiping at a place that is welcoming- or at least tolerant- of your teen’s sexuality. Problems begin when your tradition, congregation, or religious leader is not. You might be faced with demands that your teen change, that you change your teen, or that someone else have the chance to change your teen. They may threaten your teen with eternal damnation, a miserable life, or alienation from their spiritual tradition and community.
No matter what anybody tells you, you do have options, and you and your teen can work together to decide together what path you will head down. Read full post »