If your teen came out to you, congratulate yourself. Your teen trusts and values you enough to tell you that their sexual orientation is different from many of their peers. Your teen talking to you openly about this speaks wonders for your relationship with them. You may not have been the first person they told, but that’s normal; a lot of teens “practice” coming out with peers before talking to their family members.

Perhaps your teen was “outed” to you, and you think they are gay, lesbian, or bisexual because of other information you have. Now is time to have a heart-to-heart talk. Nobody should tell you about your teen’s sexual orientation except your teen.

Sometimes the news comes as a shock, sometimes parents are unsurprised. But even parents who have no qualms at the idea of having a gay child usually have some feelings to work through. You may feel fine with their sexual orientation, but what about the rest of the world? What are they opening themselves up to? Will they be bullied at school? Will they be the victim of harrassment and discrimination in their adult life? Will they have children? Does this close doors in terms of careers, travel, or other life choices? Read full post »