Finding out that your teen is pregnant, or has gotten somebody pregnant, is usually quite a shock. There are some situations and cultures in which you’re not shocked, and may be okay with the news, in which case your path will be easier. But many parents find themselves reeling at the news. You may feel angry, sad, hurt, astonished, betrayed, scared, confused, disappointed- or a mix of any of these emotions and more. Your kid pregnant- or fathering a child- and yet they are still a kid. You still pay their bills, and weather their bad moods, and sometimes are still driving them around. How did this happen?
A study came out today, stating that the HPV vaccine does not encourage promiscuous behavior among female teens.
What constitutes promiscuity? Well, the study examined whether girls who received the shot at the recommended age, around 11-12, sought advice for birth control, STD or pregnancy tests, or became pregnant within the next 3 years. There was no significant difference between girls who did and did not get the shot. (Whether or not seeking reproductive health advice or becoming pregnant is accurately labeled as “promiscuity” is up for debate in my book.)
In the US, teen pregnancy rates have gone down over the past 2 years, however they still remain very high. In fact, we have one of the highest teen pregnancy rates of any developed nation! Over 1000 teens give birth in the US each day, that’s 400,000 new teen moms each year. For teens, a natural part of growing up is developing their first romantic relationships. While many teens wait to have their first sexual encounter, nearly half (47%) of all high school students have had sex according to the Center for Disease Control. Read full post »
This is the 4th in a series of video posts on birth control with Dr. Amies-Oelschlager. Here she discusses the placement and removal of long term, reversible, contraceptive options for teens.
We’ve had previous posts on contraception or birth control in teens, but now we’re going to break down the options. This is the second in a series of 4 video blogs where we discuss contraception in a bit more detail with Dr. Amies-Oelschlager.
We discussed Plan B in a previous post on emergency contraception. In this 1st post from our series of video blogs with Dr. Amies-Oelschlager. Listen while we talk about Plan B in more detail.
This is the second in a series of videos where Dr. Amies-Oelschlager gives advice for parents on how to talk with your teen about sex. In the first video, she goes over statistics and gives tips on how to address your family values, birth control, and uncomfortable questions. In this video, the focus is on how to start this discussion on an age appropriate level with your child.
This title is a misnomer on purpose. Talking to your teen about sex shouldn’t happen in one conversation, it is something that parents should discuss with their child on an age appropriate level and continue to discuss into the teen years. Talking about sex and relationships is a great opportunity to have conversations with your teen about your family’s values and to answer questions your teen may have. This blog is the first in a series of 2 videos where Dr. Amies-Oelschlager gives helpful advice for communicating about sex.
Gay, lesbian, and bisexual teens are just like heterosexual teens in that they will get crushes, probably date, and hopefully learn a little about themselves in the process. They will discover more about how to function in romantic relationships and what they want in a partner. The feelings, desires, and heartbreak they may encounter are exactly the same that a heterosexual teen would encounter.
However, there will be some differences in their romantic lives, and often parents are not sure how to negotiate these differences.
A big question that often comes up for parents is friendships versus relationships. While your average 15-year-old boy is unlikely to ask if a girl can sleep over (although some do), a gay teen may have many friends of the same sex whom he sees without supervision, talks to behind closed doors, or asks to spend the night in his bedroom. Does that have to change if you now know your teen is attracted to the same sex?