Archive for August 2012

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Transgender Teens, Part 13: “Handling Your Discomfort,” A Guest Post from Irwin Krieger

Many parents are uncomfortable with the idea of transgender identity.  They may have been taught that being transgender is a sickness, perverted or immoral.  Many parents do not yet know anyone who is transgender.  They may react to their child’s disclosure with tremendous discomfort.

The first step in addressing your discomfort is learning more about transgender identities in general and your child in particular.  Previous blogs in this series provide much of the information you need.  My previous blog includes suggestions for learning about your teen’s experiences and feelings.

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Drug Use Among Teens: Part 1 Designer drugs

This is the first in a series of posts about drugs that teens are abusing these days. A friend who is a social worker suggested I start this blog discussing some of the newer drugs that are gaining popularity. I am always amazed at the variety of things being offered to teens and surprised at how many teens admit to trying them. The substances being used include ones that have been around for centuries (alcohol, tobacco), but there are always going to be new things out there. For parents, it’s important to know what drugs are being offered to their kids, but  it’s even more important to remember to teach teens how to be responsible for their health and say ‘no thank you’ to drugs. This series will discuss the new and old drugs being used by or offered to teens.

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“Legitimate Rape”, “Rape-Rape”, and “Dressing Like Sluts”: Talking To Your Teen About Sexual Assault

I couldn’t believe my eyes when I read what U.S. Representative Todd Akin said about rape a few days ago. There are many confusing parts of his statement, and one of them was the term “legitimate rape.” This implies that some rape is “not legitimate” and yet still falls under the umbrella of rape. It made me remember Whoopi Goldberg’s “rape-rape” comment from 2009, which I also found confusing as seems to imply that statutory rape is not really rape, as well as the comment last year wherein Toronto police constable Michael Sanguinetti explained that women can help prevent sexual assault by “not dressing like sluts.”

I feel like we, as a society, are still exploring what defines sexual assault and what doesn’t and what it actually means. The examples above may seem like random comments from random people looking to redefine rape, or at least categorize it. But a political figure no less than Paul Ryan, Mitt Romney’s partner in the presidential race, recently co-sponsored a bill that sought to define rape as “forcible” and “other” (my term, because I don’t know what else you’d call it.) To me, this means that the issue has become mainstream.

So when the country seems to be uncertain as to what constitutes sexual assault, how do we teach our teens about it?

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Transgender Teens, Part 12: “Understanding Your Teen,”A Guest Post from Irwin Krieger

Irwin Krieger, LCSW, is a counselor in New Haven, CT who works regularly with transgender teens and their families. In addition to his clinical work, he is also the author of “Helping Your Transgender Teen“, an excellent guide for parents and families of transgender teens.

Irwin has written two excellent short pieces for this blog, one of which I will be sharing today. This post looks at some feelings parents may encounter when discovering their teen is transgender, and how to talk to them about what they’ve just shared with you (or shared with you a long time ago, if you feel you haven’t had a good discussion with them.) It’s a simple, eloquent, thought-provoking entry, and I hope you enjoy reading it as much as I did:

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Sleep and Teens

As the mother of a 5 week old infant, I’m re-discovering how important sleep is. I’m no stranger to sleep deprivation. Three years of Pediatric residency training and 3 more years of medical training to specialize in teen health led to many nights when my head never touched a pillow. We’ve blogged on the topic of sleep for teens in the past but this past month has prompted me to write about the importance of sleep once again.

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Transgender Teens, Part 11: Real-Life Role Models

Last week we talked about role models for transgender teens in the media. There are plenty of real-life transgender people out there for teens to look up to as well, and in this post we’ll be discussing a few of them.

It can be difficult, in a historical sense, to figure out who was transgender. Men’s and women’s roles were so rigid  that it can be hard to tell exactly why a person switched genders. Perhaps they were truly transgender, or perhaps they wanted access to the privileges, rights, or customs of the other gender, or to love someone of the same gender more easily. For example, a woman might dress as a man to join the military and fight in a war, while a man might dress as a woman to avoid it.

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Sports Injuries in Teens

As the summer Olympic games come to an end, we’ve been thinking more about how beneficial sports can be for children and teens. Students will be returning for school next month, but many sports continue through the summer or start before school begins. Playing sports is fun, can build self confidence, and is a great way to make friends, but sometimes injuries happen. Dr. Monique Burton, a Sports Medicine specialist, takes a moment to talk with us about some common sports injuries among teens and how to prevent them.

Transgender Teens, Part 10: Role Models in TV & Movies

In comparison to 20 years ago, there has been a huge rise in the number of role models for gay, lesbian, and bisexual youth. There are gay, lesbian, and bisexual actors, musicians, authors, journalists, artists, politicians, athletes, CEOs, and plenty of gay, lesbian, and bisexual characters in movies and TV.

Where are the transgender role models?

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Even Good Swimmers Need Life Vests

This summer we have been posting about the importance of life jackets and water safety.  Already this year, there have been multiple drownings and water rescues in the Washington news. Many teens and parents don’t think water accidents will happen, but unfortunately, they can happen to even the strongest of swimmers. The good news is drownings can be prevented with proper use of life jackets and paying attention to water safety.

Kevin Sayson is a Washington resident whose brother died after falling off a paddleboard in Lake WA last summer. He and his family grew up on the water, with jet skiing and swimming as regular past-times and his brother was actually the person who taught Kevin how to swim. Kevin spent some time telling his brother’s story for the blog. He is honoring the 1 year anniversary of his brother’s drowning August 6th with a safety event about the importance of personal life jacket use.